“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”
When you are a busy mum juggling work and family responsibilities it leaves little time to take care of you.
I believe that it is so important for mums is to make time for self-care.
Looking after you needs to take priority in your life.
If you don’t look after yourself, you can’t look after your family.
So often mums put their own needs last, and focus their attention on everyone around them. We feel guilty for taking time away from our families.
There are so many things that mums put ahead of themselves; their kids, their partner, their work, their housework, the shopping, the cooking and running errands just to name a few, the list could go on…
We often don’t have enough hours in the day to get everything done so time out for ourselves gets left off the list.
Thanks to technology and smart phones we are contactable round the clock and often feel like people will look down on us if we don’t respond quickly enough. This means that there is a blurred line between work and home life.
Being constantly connected leads to us feeling worn out, exhausted and easily frustrated.
Self-care should be a non-negotiable for mums.
If you want to have the energy to care for your kids you need to start taking care of yourself.
“Self-care is not about self indulgence, its about self preservation.”
Why am I so passionate about self-care?
After having my son in 2010, I stopped looking after myself. I didn’t ask for help as much as I should have and took on the role of ‘mum’ and only ‘mum’ and forgot about ‘me’ for a little while.
Now, as a full time working mum with two children (building a business on the side) I value the time I take out for myself as I can see the benefits it has on my mood, my productivity, my relationships and how it helps to restore balance in my life.
You can start small – it can be as simple as taking 10 minutes out when your kids are in bed to have a bath, or it could be as simple as going for a walk in your lunch break – it is amazing what fresh air can do for your wellbeing, not to mention your mindset.
So, what is self-care?
Self-care is taking part in any action, behaviour or activity that benefits your mental and physical health.
Self-care activities can be different for everyone and it is important to partake in an activity that benefits your mental and physical health, activities that work for you.
Why is self-care so important?
When we make time to care for ourselves, our self-esteem increases, our levels of stress decrease and our overall health and well-being improves.
Introducing self-care into the routine helps working mums to restore balance in their busy lives.
Self-care is vital for your body.
Self-care is vital for your mind.
Self-care is vital for your soul.
It is a good thing to check in with your body, mind and soul. Finding time for our own health and happiness is far from selfish.
If we take care of ourselves, we are likely to see an improvement in other areas of our lives including, relationships with our partner and children, our overall health and work performance.
Simple self-care ideas to get you started:
Make sleep a priority
When you don’t get enough sleep you are tired, grumpy and it has a big impact on your mood, which flows through not only to your children and partner but also to your work.
Sleep deprivation makes you feel sluggish, grumpy and lethargic and wont have the energy you need to care for everyone and get things ticked off your to-do list.
Make sleep a priority – you cannot expect to function at your best when you are not well rested. I know that I function better with sleep and since incorporating essential oils (Lavender peace, Vetiver and Easy Air) into my wind-sown routine, I sleep much more solidly and wake feeling energised and refreshed.
Fit in exercise
I have to start by saying that I am not a health expert but I know how I feel when I exercise. It improves my mood, I am more able to focus on my work and it boosts my energy levels – essential for me to balance work, parenting and life.
When we don’t exercise we feel sluggish and daily tasks may seem like a struggle.
Exercise is so important for our bodies. It helps keep us sane and will re-energise us and helps restore the balance in our lives.
You don’t have to go from doing minimal or no exercise to running marathons.
Even just a 15 minute walk in your lunch break will pick you up, give you an opportunity to clear your head so that when you get back to work you feel re-energised and refreshed.
Commit to pampering yourself at home
This could be as simple as giving yourself a foot scrub and pedicure or relaxing in a bath of Epsom salts and essential oils (my favs are Balance, Lavender and Frankincense).
It doesn’t have to be something that take a whole evening – I feel so refreshed after soaking for 20 minutes in the bath and then massaging fractionated coconut oil and my essential oil of my choice into my whole body. This is such a great way to unwind from a busy day and switch off. Not only am I nourishing my body and refreshing my skin, if I choose relaxing oils, it always helps me sleep better.
Unplug from everything
We live in such a connected world. With smart phones we can be contacted 24/7. Our phones are constantly getting notifications – from call, texts to emails and notifications form social media – facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest just to name a few.
On social media we get instant updates on what those around us are doing and we can update those around us with what we are doing – it could be a full-time job in itself keeping up with what everyone is doing.
Sometimes, unplugging for just an hour can have huge benefits.
But when you unplug from technology it gives you time to think and take in what is going on around you. Unplugging gives us time to reflect and evaluate our lives.
It also gives us time to talk to our partner and children without distractions around us.
Put on some music that makes you happy
How good is music? There are certain songs that instantly boost my mood. I know that listening and signing to a good song does wonders for my mindset and stress levels – even dancing around the room (or in the car) is a great way to de-stress. + if you dance for long enough, it doubles as exercise – win win!
Learn to rest when you are tired
This is a tough one for me. I am so used to being busy busy busy and always on the go that I have found it hard to just be and rest when I am tired.
Sometimes we are so focused on getting everything done we think that we cant stop to rest.
AT times like this it is important to take the time out to stop and focus on you – refuel and take a break – it will make you feel rejuvenated and ready to tackle your tasks. When you don’t you get exhausted and productivity dwindles.
If you need to – put some grounding oils in your diffuser and sit and enjoy a cup of tea while taking time to breathe. I have found this works wonders for me.
Schedule time for you in your calendar
Planning time out for you and scheduling it into your calendar is so important.
But not only scheduling it in – you need to commit to it.
Again, start small.
Set aside 15 minutes a day to enjoy an activity you love. It can be anything; reading a book, listening to music, going for a walk or sitting outside and enjoying the sunshine with a cup of tea.
Mums are great at multi-tasking and trying to get a million things done at once.
Use this time to focus on one activity, and one activity only.
Take responsibility for your own self-care – if you don’t, no one else will.
Take time out with friends with a spa class
If you want to try some of the doTERRA spa range of products, take a night off with some friends, invite me round to your place and we will talk self-care while testing out these natural products that you can use to nourish your skin (without the nasties). Email me at sarah @ sarahpoppy . com to book something in.